Interview with Author Marilyn L. Davis Courtesy of Deb at Book Goodies. It’s Where Readers & Authors Meet…



Meet Author Marilyn L. Davis, a tireless advocate of addiction and recovery and an extraordinary writer. Deb from Book goodies caught up with her as her new book, “Finding North: From Addict to Advocate,” has released on Amazon. So I wanted to share this fantastic interview with all my readers so you can learn more about the woman behind the book. 

I just happened to finish reading and gave her a 5-stars! My review is now on Amazon. Readers Favorite thought her book was also fantastic and gave Marilyn a 5-star awarded book review too. 

Give her author profile visit to read the review! https://readersfavorite.com/book-review/finding-north
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ABOUT Finding North: A Journey from Addict to Advocate

New in recovery, a chance encounter with Gray Hawk, a 74-year old Native American, showed her that healing would include looking within, taking Steps, and creating a house of healing for other women.

Today, Marilyn is a Certified Addiction Recovery Empowerment Specialist, recently celebrating thirty-two years of abstinence-based recovery. From 1990-2011, she opened and managed North House, an award-winning residential facility for women.

Before reaching this milestone, she was a desperate woman on drugs, managing rock bands at night, pretending to be okay, but ultimately giving up on herself, losing her husband, children, family, and friends due to her addiction.

This book is that journey.




In-Depth Author Interview With Marilyn L. Davis


Marilyn L. Davis is the author of the memoir Finding North: A Journey from Addict to Advocate. A chance encounter with a 74-year-old Native American helped her find her purpose. From 1990-2011, she opened and managed North House, an award-winning residential recovery home for women.

She is also the Editor-in-Chief at her recovery blog, From Addict 2 Advocate. She recently celebrated 32 years of abstinence-based recovery and is a Certified Addiction Recovery Empowerment Specialist.

Before her recovery, she was a desperate woman on drugs, managing rock bands at night, pretending to be okay at PTA meetings, but ultimately giving up on herself, losing her husband, children, family, and friends due to her addiction.

Marilyn is widely known for her writing in many literary communities, including her award-winning website, Two Drops of Ink, where she encourages collaborative writing and is the Editor-in-Chief. The site’s writers are poets, problem-solvers for writers and bloggers, as well as those who educate, entertain, and enchant us with the written word. The writers represent different countries, viewpoints, and opinions.

When she is not writing, Marilyn is an avid reader, enjoys gardening and cooking. She has raised two beautiful grown daughters, both in recovery, and is a Nana to four grandchildren. None of her grandchildren have ever seen their mother’s or their Nana use, so maybe the addiction cycle is broken. She resides in an Atlanta suburb with a controlling cat named Jackson.


What inspires you to write?
I am inspired to write as I believe that writing helps us heal. Whether it’s a journal or a memoir that we publish, writing allows us the emotional safety to fully explore our thoughts and feelings.

Since I was a child, I’ve scribbled down words once I understood that those black squiggly lines on a page told a story. I was bullied as a child, and these passages helped me feel better about myself and my isolated world.

I don’t know that it was ‘inspiration’ that helped me create a recovery curriculum for my recovery home. It felt more like desperation. I got tired of saying the same thing, so I decided to write it out. The response to Therapeutic Integrated Educational Recovery System (TIERS) gave me the confidence to start writing at Two Drops of Ink and ultimately write my memoir.

What authors do you read when you aren’t writing?
Each of the following authors helps me learn the craft of writing: Joan Didion, Vladimir Nabokov, Roshani Chokshi, Neil Gaiman, Anne Lamott, Natalie Goldberg, Annie Dillard, William Zinsser, Roy Peter Clark and others.

Tell us about your writing process.
My writing process starts with an idea, topic, or subject that I want to write about, prompted by a conversation, a question from one of my recovery groups, or emails with other writers.

Taking the idea and doing some looping, brainstorming, prewriting, and then creating a first draft complete that phase.

Next, I research the topic, taking into account whether the subject is saturated or is there an aspect of it that I could develop further. At this point, I decide if I’ll write from breadth or width on the topic.

Writing for two blogs, one on recovery and one on writing means there’s always a deadline, and those add incentive to get the writing done.

So the process can be most accurately be described as, “You’ve got to get a post done. Now write.”


What advice would you give other writers?
Advice:
1. Don’t be afraid to write.
2. Don’t call yourself aspiring, soon-to-be-best-selling, or wanna-be. If you’re writing, then you are a writer.
3. Stay with it.
4. Read books on how to improve your writing.
5. Find a website that takes guest posts and submit a post to them.
6. Once you see your writing on a site, let that encourage you to write more, start that novel, write the definitive how-to, or finish your memoir – whatever is your big book.
7. Never throw away your darlings. Keep them in a file and review them monthly. You wrote those for a reason, even if you couldn’t use them at the time.

How did you decide how to publish your books?
I’d been encouraged to publish Finding North: A Journey from Addict to Advocate by my family, friends, recovery professionals, and writers I’d shown drafts to over the past three years. Fear kept me from publishing it until this year.

However, while procrastinating on publishing my memoir, I also wrote a how-to on memoir writing called Memories into Memoir: The Mindsets and Mechanics Workbook that will be published later this spring.

What do you think about the future of book publishing?
I think that traditional publishing will still factor, but with new and emerging platforms for authors, I think we’ll start seeing self-publishing increase.

I published on Amazon and found the experience straightforward. I hired a formatting specialist; my sister is an artist and designed the cover, and I followed the directions once the manuscript and cover were ready.

I also see more diversity in the books that are published. We have lacked diversity for some time. While that may read as “jumping on the bandwagon”, I know that living a counter societal lifestyle in my addiction meant that my memoir did not meet the criteria for certain publishing houses.

I think a problem with traditional publishing is that there’s not a connection to the reader. In contrast, Amazon understands what readers want and takes the time to recommend similar books. While not publishing sites, Goodreads and ThriftBooks do, also.

I also think that print-on-demand factors for the author, reader, and environment, and it would be a mistake to discount those factors when choosing which route to take as an author. Plus, it means not having 75 autographed copies of your book gathering dust in the attic.

What genres do you write?:
Memoir, How to Write a Memoir, primarily non-fiction


What formats are your books in?:
I publish in both eBook and Print


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Pre-order Happening Now and New Book Release Coming by Author, Tony Roberts Called “When Despair Meets Delight”…

New Book Releasing Soon By My Dear Friend and fellow author Tony Roberts! It is his second book to release and I can’t wait to give it read! He has been a tireless advocate for those of us who have Mental Health challenges in life.

There is more to learn and the ordering details are at the bottom of this post and shared from his amazing website of Delight in Disorder! 

When Despair Meets Delight Goes to Press

The time is at hand. After five years of gestation, and over a year of hard labor (with a week of major complications), I have been assured that When Despair Meets Delight will go to the printers today. From there, it should take two weeks to prepare a review copy. When I am satisfied that all looks good, I will bring boxes of books home. Then comes the delightfully arduous task of mailing out advance orders — now over 100. On September 3, the print and e-book will be released on Amazon and the audio version on Audible.

This has been an incredibly busy week. I contracted with a man from Uganda to design memes for social media. I hired a sound engineer to create a commercial for iHeart radio. I have been reaching out to podcasters, blog authors, pastors, and others to get the message out. I am both incredibly enthused and emotionally exhausted.

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I know I can’t maintain this pace and I’m happy to say I have much help. Not only from God, but from God’s people. Over 100 people have joined #TeamDelight, praying for me and our shared mission to spread hope for troubled minds, the hope that shines light in the darkness and turns despair into delight.


Many of you know (some more than others) that I am taking a big risk. With my illness, such a frenetic schedule can do me in. One of the only ways to promote a memoir is to promote the author.

For someone with bipolar, this can lead to grandiosity. I can begin to believe my own press clippings. Please pray with me that I maintain a humble heart, even if it means I am humiliated. I’m willing to play the fool, as long as I am a fool for Christ and give God the glory.

Finally, it is essential that I show integrity; that my actions are consistent with my words. One piece of pastoral advice I’ve given people is — “Receive God’s care, so you can care for yourselves to care for others.” Like the flight instructions often ignored, before we can help children with their oxygen masks, we have to put on our own.

If I deplete my spiritual strength in an effort to manage more than I can bear, I won’t do anyone any good. To avoid this, I’m going to plan each day a schedule that promotes good health — physical, psychological, spiritual.

My primary aim in life is not just to glorify God, but to enjoy him forever. One of the best ways to enjoy God is to appreciate creation. Each day I’m going to do something that better connects me with nature. Whether it is watching the joy of my wife as she plants flowers, taking my dog Briley for a refreshing walk through the park, or going on a retreat at a cabin in the woods. I am committing myself to live more in harmony with what God made and called good.

One thing I know I will continue to do is writing. Writing is not only my vocation, but it is also my primary form of prayer. It is my life’s blood. There is a direct vein going from my heart to my hand that pumps who I am and whose I am onto the page.

When I write, the voices inside and around me are shushed and I can better hear God’s voice. When I read Scripture and reflect on it, I embrace the truth God speaks out of love for us.

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Your word is a lamp for my feet, a light on my path. (Psalm 119:105)

 

Order your copy in advance at When Despair Meets Delight.
You receive an autographed copy before the public release, with free shipping.

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Please visit Tony today and pre-order your copy on his special new book website of When Despair Meets Delight…

Guest Article By Author and Advocate Deb Morgan. A Little Peek Inside Her Soon To Release Book “Trapped.” A Look Inside Addiction.

 
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Every child comes into this world with a clean white canvas, and life fills in the colors. In my experience, that was an extremely gray area. I would start my life on a destructive personal path. When I got into my teenage years, I would slowly destroy everything in my life.

My life would continue spinning in this tornado of damage. I thought that I was hurting everyone but myself. What lies I told myself and others, what’s worse I believed them. I would get thrown a life preserver that I would be very blessed to have that would save my life; however, I would come close to drowning before using it.

 

 

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In all the jumbled up fake reality, I thought I ruled the world. How bad could it be now I have my pills and alcohol all is well. I had driven a bulldozer in the window of my life for a long time. I was a walking, talking disaster. My timing superb, just like an addict. The Doctor had put me on opiates because of two surgeries.

After six months, it was time to get off of the pills. No problem, but after two weeks it was a problem, so I decided to start shopping for doctors for more pills. Doing this was easy for a little while, and then the doctors would take me off the opiates. So I started taking their prescription pads, and I was off to the races.

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I never thought about what this could do to my kids or myself. I never thought of how much jail time I would get or that I was ever going to get caught. I did not believe or care. I started on this journey of slowly taking risks like every other dangerous thing I did. Like a baby needs a bottle, I needed pills.

Over and over, I wrote prescriptions using anyone’s name, writing prescriptions in at least four counties. So was it a surprise when I got caught? Yes, of all answers, yes. I thought in a sick addict’s mind that I defied the odds. What I did not know was I wanted to get caught. I was just tired. Tired of the worry, the running, and the fear of what lies ahead, still all I wanted to do it run!

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Here is where my life began to go quickly downhill. Even though I thought I was six feet tall and bulletproof, I was neither one of those things. I knew I was going to need more pills and was up to one hundred a week. It was a full-time job, and I was at the point where I couldn’t live without them.

I would make that stupid mistake that addicts so frequently make and got caught. So I would get thrown the life preserver instead of a jail cell. All of this wouldn’t be how I thought it would happen. It was time to stop treading water.

It was time to stop running and start living.


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A NOTE FROM THE AUTHOR

“I started writing and talking openly about my journey about 5 years ago. Writing my story and getting it out in the world as far as I could is my goal. My writing started out with journals and essays, always thinking someday I would get a book written and had no idea how to begin to do it.

So I started writing, then a website, then an opportunity for a radio show, then another, and I just kept refusing to give up. I was asked to be on a show a few months ago in 2019, from there life would change to the point where I don’t even know which way it is going. But my advocacy work today keeps my dreams alive and help others who still suffer from any addiction.

So far, I have had 15 radio spots, 2 podcasts, and was invited as a contributing chapter writer in the new book titled “Simply Amazing Women” available on Barnes and Noble and Amazon.  I will then publish my new book titled “TRAPPED” sometime in 2020 or early 2021. I am currently writing another little book on Fibromyalgia and Chronic Pain to release hopefully soon.”

A dream isn’t a dream anymore when we do the work, it can be a reality. “ I am living proof of that. 
When we want something bad enough that will be helpful for someone else, that is the hope that it does exactly that, help.

~Author, Deb Morgan

 

I Welcome Writer and Author, Dr. Rev. Kevin Coughlin, Ph.D. to Cat’s Writing Den…

 

 

“My name is Reverend Dr., Provincial Superintendent Kevin T. Coughlin Ph.D., most call me Rev. Kev. All that I have been, all that I am, and all that I ever will be is because of God’s grace.”

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Hello Everyone, and Welcome to Cat Lyon’s Reading & Writing Den, Writer Interviews.

My name Catherine Lyon, Author…Let’s get Kevin introduced to everyone and have some fun of the writer side of YOU! Now, of course, I need to begin that Kev helps others reaching out and those maintaining Recovery from Addictions. He is a Best-Selling writer and author over a bazillion books I cannot keep count! But each one is amazing…

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Image may contain: 2 people“Find All My Helpful Books Here on Amazon & Amazon Kindle!

 


Tell who you are? Rev. Dr. Kevin T. Coughlin Ph.D. Provincial Superintendent, CIP, IMAC, DCC, DD.

 

Now I know loads about you, but tell readers a little of what you do?
Pastoral Counselor, Christian Therapist, Interventionist, Best-Selling Author, Award-Winning Poet, Writer, Blog Writer and Guest Blog Writer, Speaker, Trainer, Master Coach, Consultant, Addiction Expert.

 

Where are you from? – CT, FLA, now The Poconos, PA.

 

Tell us more about you? Like your education, family life. Etc.

I have a very extensive education.  I continue to do research for my books and articles.  I have numerous certifications and degrees.

Family life, my mother passed six years ago, my father is in a nursing home in CT with Parkinson’s, my sister is an RN in CT, my brother is a Contractor in FLA, I live with my two girls in the Poconos, Bella and Stella, my pups! I am currently disabled with joint disease, in a wheelchair for now.  I am a former State Champion Powerlifter, a Nine-Time National Champion and Two-Time World Champion, and I still hold several bench-press records.  My long-time buddy died last month at 12 years of age, Mr. Rabbit, he was a Bichon Frise that my mother had given me as a gift 12 years ago. I don’t care for cats very much, well maybe one! LOL. I love dogs especially Pitbulls!

Don’t LIKE CATS? WELL!….. LOL!

 

Do you have any latest news or projects? 

I’m closing in on 40 published books this year mostly non-fiction.  I am designing and selling products on Amazon besides books, such as coffee mugs, there is even one for writers! I’m doing a series on addictions called;  Ten The Hard Way; True Stories of Addiction and Recovery and the book one is already on Amazon’s Top 100 Best-Seller list, there were eight authors involved. We are getting ready to start Book 2 and are looking for people to submit stories on addiction from any point of view.

 

Are you a writer? YES!

 

When and why did you begin writing?
About 22 years ago as I wrote a poem when a young friend overdosed.

 

What inspired you to write your first book?
About 22 years ago.  I wrote a poem when a young friend overdosed and continued writing award-winning poetry.



How did you come up with the title?
I picked a title that people would relate to and use the keywords when looking for the type of book.

 

Do you have a specific writing style?
I write just like I talk and from feelings.

 


How much of your books are realistic and are experiences based on someone you know, or events in your own life?
Just about all of it.

To craft your works, do you have to travel? Before or during the process?
No.

Who designed the covers? I Do…

 

Is there a message in your novel that you want readers to grasp?
Usually.

Are there any new authors that have grasped your interest?  Who is your favorite writer? Alana Haase, Emma Ashley, and her Amish books.


Outside of family members, name one person that supported your commitment to becoming a published author?
Melissa Manes and you.

 

If you had to do it all over again, would you change anything in your latest book?
Nope, I wouldn’t change a thing.

Did you learn anything during the writing of your recent book?
Yes, doing our new book; Ten The Hard Way, The Amazing stories and strength of the authors in recovery.


If your book was made into a film, who would you like to play the lead?
Well, there are ten different people’s stories so the lead would have to be a real talent or storyteller, Nick Carroway who narrated The Great Gatsby, or Jim Carroll, American poet and author of The Basketball Diaries.

Any advice for other writers?
Keep writing you will get better and better, read, read, read, you will get better and better.  Use editors after you edit 15 times. Share one thing about you that will surprise readers…I’ve written almost 40 books in 18 months


Will you write another book?
No, I will write many more books! LOL.

What are you reading now?
I just finished Webs by Alana Haase, it was excellent!

 

Do you remember the first book you read?
Probably Curious George when very Young.

 

Is there one person, past or present, you would love to meet? Why?
Jesus, so I can get all the answers for everything!

 

Do you have any hobbies?
I used to be a power weightlifting champ, now I am writing to help others recover or train others to help those looking for treatment and recovery.

 

 

Favorite Music?
Rock n Roll!

Imagine a future where you no longer write. What would you do?
Use a typewriter!

 

What do you want to be written on your headstone as part of your Legacy?
“We Can’t Find Him; He’s Still Alive!”

 

Do you have a blog or website where readers can visit for updates, events or updates?   Rev Kev’s Recovery World.

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Well, Kevin, I thank you for sharing with me and my readers the writer side of all the work you DO helping others and families from addiction. It was interesting to learn more “the writer side” of you, a MAN of very few WORDS! LOL. Where can my friends find and connect with you on Social Media?

I am all over!  On Facebook –  Tumblr – LinkedIn
Most Importantly my Video Series on YouTube

If you need an Intervention or Recovery Coaching visit my Recovery Coaching & Intervention too!


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And Don’t Let Kev Fool You, HE LOVES CAT!

My Daily Pet Journal Book;: I Love Cats by [Coughlin Ph.D., Rev. Dr. Kevin T. ]

 

Update on our Co-writing Journey. What Personal Info is Too Much Sharing When Writing Your Life Story in a Memoir and Legacy?

Hello and Welcome Readers, Friends, and Bronco Fans!

“Writing a Memoir is different than an autobiography”

A Memoir is a collection of memories that an individual writes about moments or events, both public or private, that took place in the subject’s life. The assertions made in the work are understood to be factual.

But it is also a personal essay about a significant memory in the author’s life that uses narrative devices like setting, character, and dialogue. Molding your “chosen memory” and in our case, ‘ How Addictions, Money, and a Shift from God and The Loss of a Son,’  that I am writing for Vance and bringing his story to an appropriate structure, using vivid detail and examining the memory’s significance will help us write a strong memoir


So our writing journey has begun and is moving along. Now I want to be transparent as possible as Vance and I continue to write together. I spoke with Vance yesterday and he is moving forward with working with a marketer and making choices on what type of book cover to go with. Do we do that now? Or do we wait to read the full manuscript first? Your thoughts readers? I also want to share a little about the process of writing and how at times one can be unsure of themselves of what to share about one’s life. We would love feedback from all who visits this post as a ‘Wee Bit of Encouragement’ to my writing partner. We’re exploring the topic and feelings of writing about others in the memoir, but is there a line we just don’t cross?

THE DILEMMA:

When I wrote my book/memoir, and it turned into a book manuscript (all by GOD Intervention), I too was riddled with reservations about some of the personal family drama and dysfunctional episodes that went on in my home I grew up in. I was raised at a time when you never bring “shame” to the family and never talk about what goes on in our homes out in public. Well, needless to say, I felt I needed to share of the topics as those events were a direct link to some of the roots of why I had turned to addiction later in life. NO, I didn’t share to hurt my family or those I spoke of, I did it to give an in-depth look inside one’s life and share how all of the events, abuse, chaos, and trauma in my home had an effect on me. Especially into adulthood. Not all children are raised in a perfect home environment the “Brady Bunch or The Cleavers.”

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Now? Vance is struggling a little with some of these decisions as we write. What does he expose or not about his family, events or old memories about growing up as to NOT hurt or offend his parents, sister, or others?

I explained to Vance that his book and the journey are not about them or others, it is about him and looking at the past pain and events that had an effect on his life and had carried that into his adult life and how he made it through to the man “Standing In Grace and Saving Lives from Addiction today.  Am I Wrong?  How do you feel about that? GOD never promised us a Perfect Life without trials and lessons to overcome.  Vance has come through many storms and trauma from addictions.  My own side of the family and I had been estranged for about six years before my book was released. But Vance’s family are in his life, but just not aboard with this book project.

So, do we share the good, the bad and the UGLY? Or do we change direction or not write his memoir chronological and start in a different place? Isn’t this part of Vance’s healing process of taking stock, process and then turn it over to GOD? Or is there a fine thin blue line between the paper your not to cross?

Any feedback, advice, and comments would be helpful and appreciated. It is why we chose to invite everyone to follow our journey. Your voice and advice is important for our project.

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