Update on our Co-writing Journey. What Personal Info is Too Much Sharing When Writing Your Life Story in a Memoir and Legacy?

Hello and Welcome Readers, Friends, and Bronco Fans!

“Writing a Memoir is different than an autobiography”

A Memoir is a collection of memories that an individual writes about moments or events, both public or private, that took place in the subject’s life. The assertions made in the work are understood to be factual.

But it is also a personal essay about a significant memory in the author’s life that uses narrative devices like setting, character, and dialogue. Molding your “chosen memory” and in our case, ‘ How Addictions, Money, and a Shift from God and The Loss of a Son,’  that I am writing for Vance and bringing his story to an appropriate structure, using vivid detail and examining the memory’s significance will help us write a strong memoir


So our writing journey has begun and is moving along. Now I want to be transparent as possible as Vance and I continue to write together. I spoke with Vance yesterday and he is moving forward with working with a marketer and making choices on what type of book cover to go with. Do we do that now? Or do we wait to read the full manuscript first? Your thoughts readers? I also want to share a little about the process of writing and how at times one can be unsure of themselves of what to share about one’s life. We would love feedback from all who visits this post as a ‘Wee Bit of Encouragement’ to my writing partner. We’re exploring the topic and feelings of writing about others in the memoir, but is there a line we just don’t cross?

THE DILEMMA:

When I wrote my book/memoir, and it turned into a book manuscript (all by GOD Intervention), I too was riddled with reservations about some of the personal family drama and dysfunctional episodes that went on in my home I grew up in. I was raised at a time when you never bring “shame” to the family and never talk about what goes on in our homes out in public. Well, needless to say, I felt I needed to share of the topics as those events were a direct link to some of the roots of why I had turned to addiction later in life. NO, I didn’t share to hurt my family or those I spoke of, I did it to give an in-depth look inside one’s life and share how all of the events, abuse, chaos, and trauma in my home had an effect on me. Especially into adulthood. Not all children are raised in a perfect home environment the “Brady Bunch or The Cleavers.”

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Now? Vance is struggling a little with some of these decisions as we write. What does he expose or not about his family, events or old memories about growing up as to NOT hurt or offend his parents, sister, or others?

I explained to Vance that his book and the journey are not about them or others, it is about him and looking at the past pain and events that had an effect on his life and had carried that into his adult life and how he made it through to the man “Standing In Grace and Saving Lives from Addiction today.  Am I Wrong?  How do you feel about that? GOD never promised us a Perfect Life without trials and lessons to overcome.  Vance has come through many storms and trauma from addictions.  My own side of the family and I had been estranged for about six years before my book was released. But Vance’s family are in his life, but just not aboard with this book project.

So, do we share the good, the bad and the UGLY? Or do we change direction or not write his memoir chronological and start in a different place? Isn’t this part of Vance’s healing process of taking stock, process and then turn it over to GOD? Or is there a fine thin blue line between the paper your not to cross?

Any feedback, advice, and comments would be helpful and appreciated. It is why we chose to invite everyone to follow our journey. Your voice and advice is important for our project.

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Book Review: Whit’s End, The Biography of a Breakdown. By Author, Whitney McKendree Moore.

Welcome Readers and Friends,

I just finished an amazing new book I feel all will enjoy. It is by my sweet new friend and fellow Author, Whitney McKendree Moore. So let’s get right to it!

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About The Book:

Whit’s End is the biography of a breakdown. It will bring hope to any Christian who is wringing their hands over a loved one’s addiction. In author Whitney Moore’s family, the problem was related to alcohol, but addiction is addiction, is addiction. This story proves that nothing is too hard for God—that when we can’t, God can.

The victory that is unfolded in these pages starts with the shock of realizing there is even such as thing as “functional alcoholism.” When the problem is finally revealed, Moore finds help in a twelve-step recovery, where people learn to discern (and do!) God’s will. In meetings, people share the miracles that, for them, have started to unfold:

• Fear turning into faith
• Bondage turning into freedom
• Mourning turning into joy

Moore’s story is full of evidence that what is impossible for man is possible with God, and that with God’s help, there is hope for the hopeless and help for the helpless. In short, God can, if only we will get out of His way.

This book is for any Christian who loves an alcoholic.

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MY BOOK REVIEW:

Bravo Whitney for shedding light on how alcoholism can take a toll on a family that by all accounts from the outside looks happy and normal, but Whitney shares in writing, behind closed doors can be a very different picture and slowly becomes real life dealing with addiction and mental illness.

Don’t let the beautiful beginning of her tribute to the fond memories of her family and childhood fool you as you delve deeper into reading her memoir. As many topics and issues start to unravel themselves that begins the part of the book’s title; “Biography of a Breakdown.” It will tug your heart strings as you learn what was actually taking place between her mother and father, and the father-daughter dynamic. I don’t like reviews that “spoil” a good book, what I can tell you, this is an exceptionally well-written read.

It will enlighten you to many serious issues that can destroy an “angelic family life.”
You also begin to see just how “faith and miracles” can intervene when all hope is lost. It sheds light on the topics of what a “functioning alcoholic and alcoholism” looks like and how a 12-Step program can make all the difference in learning how to protect yourself when thinking we can change or control what is happening around us and by whom. Nope, only God has that ability as the author shares very well of her personal experiences.

Through this book, that is exactly what Whitney testifies about and clearly shares. Many times addiction is just too big to handle on our own. As Whitney learns. She shares that even from death, grief and difficult life events, we can find blessings and lessons learned from tragic negatives and trauma. I loved when she shared; “when we can’t God CAN.” Which is very profound if you are a Christian and woman of God as the author is by reading her book. ‘Hope and Faith’ will never fail you.

This book will help you heal old wounds, makes you feel sadness, happiness, shed a few tears, laugh, cringe at times and have joy as Whitney finds triumph along with peace and serenity in her life. Addiction and mental illness are hard topics to write about. Whitney has done a service to all who are facing these same challenges. You learn how to “just give it to God and forgive.”

I highly recommend this book to everyone!


Purchase “Whit’s End” on Amazon here in paperback and E-book.